Self Defense Training Articles
Self Defense Training Articles
I grew up in a fairly liberal household and the thought of owning a firearm as a youth never really crossed my mind. As a victim of an assault during high school, I began to wonder if there were options for protecting myself. As a good daughter does, I sought the advice from my step-dad and was told the best thing to do was to work out to look good and not waste money on self-defense training because it’s impossible for a female to defend herself against a male. (This is just about the worst advice anyone could possibly give because there are viable options!) Fast forward 20 years and this bad advice is still being propagated by the liberal left when the reality is that firearms saves more lives than MSM ever gives them credit for. Firearms are the greatest equalizer in a fight for women. But owning a firearm and actually knowing how to use one in time of stress are two different stories.
Living in the south, I cannot tell you how many times I’ve heard the expression “I grew up around guns, of course I know how to shoot” Or “Of course I carry, it’s always in my purse/ glove compartment somewhere”. It’s almost as if they’re using guns as a talisman to ward off evil spirits or as a good luck charm. If things go rough, I wish them the best and hope they’re able to defend themselves and their loved ones but I’m not holding my breath. In order to effectively defend yourself, you have to regularly train because you will naturally default to the highest level of training you have mastered.
Ladies, we have to know our big Why? Why do we carry? Beyond the Constitutional Right to carry, I’m a mother of 3 and want to be able to protect my children and myself if the situation ever arises. I love my husband and want to be able to have his back if we’re ever in a situation together where we have to defend ourselves. Child/Human trafficking is a huge and rising problem in our country and of course, because there are crazy people out there who just like to hurt people. (At the writing of this article, the people in Israel wish they had easy access to firearms to defend themselves against the recent Hamas terror attack.) No matter what the gun laws are like in your area, bad guys will always find a way to get a firearm or weapon to hurt the good guys and I want to be a good guy with a gun to combat the ever present evil.
Mackay and I both conceal carry and have gone through various guns trying to find the right one for our lifestyle. I personally like to carry either a Glock 43x (with some modifications) or a Shadow Systems CR920. I love my Shadow Systems CR 920 for a lot of reasons but mainly for reliability and ease of concealing. (In later blogs I can go over my favorite ways to actually conceal and carry.) Our competition guns are different because of our personal preferences - my hands are a lot smaller than his and therefore our needs are slightly different. In our women’s only classes that we teach, together one of my biggest pet peeves is hearing these beautiful ladies saying the gun they brought to learn on is one their father/boyfriend/uncle/ husband gave them to carry - they don’t know anything about it or how to shoot it. Before you buy your first gun, please please go shoot with them first and take a training class. 9 times out of 10, the ladies leave the class with their gun saying they need something different. Honestly, most come with tiny guns that have safeties that are extremely difficult to manipulate and are hard to shoot accurately therefore making their guns more of a talisman than an actual tool for self-defense.
Find the gun that you want to carry with and then have multiple ways to carry it. I was really surprised at how much slower I was drawing from a belly band and/or my purse than from my holster. Every second counts in an armed engagement and being prepared mentally and physically is key. I have a full sized gun I regularly train with to improve my fundaments and skills and then I train with my smaller conceal carry pistol. To quote my husband “The best gun you have is the gun you are carrying.”
Ladies, I encourage you to know your “why” and then get out and practice with someone other than your husband/dad/uncle who has been around guns all their lives but never formally trained. Train with someone who has teaching experience and is dedicated to helping others learn how to safely carry. (And then learn how to care for and clean your firearm - no one expects you to automatically know how to do this.) You will need to dedicate time to learn how to dry-fire as well as train with your method of conceal carrying. Time at the range is money well spent and from a practical stand point, we make it our date time. Who says you can’t have some romance at the range while learning a skill? You learning how to shoot well will also encourage your significant other to practice as well. You are setting the example for your sons and daughters, grandchildren to take their safety seriously as well. The more I train, the better I get and the more I enjoy training. There is a huge learning curve at first - give yourself some grace to have time to learn and get better. You are worth it and one day, your life might depend on it.
By Amandalyn Barr
is an entrepreneur and content creator. He lives on a small homestead in central Alabama where his wife and three children raise livestock and enjoy the quit life on their farm. He served as an Infantry Officer in the United States Army from Alaska to Afghanistan and currently owns, along side his wife, Timberline Security Solutions LLC based in Birmingham Alabama.
Amandalyn has spent her professional career doing a little bit of everything from being a licensed real estate agent, to a Private Investigator. Currently she operates, along with her husband, Timberline Security Solutions LLC to train civilians, military and police officers for the battle they may one day face. Together with Mackay they work as Private Investigators and conduct executive level protection details.